The Bigger They Are....
I have found repeatedly to beware a person who tells you how good they are, how smart they are, how they'll never act the way their friends act, etc. Usually, I have found that these are the people who fall the hardest, the fastest, the farthest.
A couple examples I can think of include:
1) When I was in college, I was dating a woman, Laura. This was back in the mid-80's. She would go on and on about how much she disliked Yuppies, how they were beneath respect, and that she would NEVER be one.
I ran into her a couple years after college and she was driving an Acura, which was the official car of Yuppiedom at the time. A few years later and she was living in the suburbs, with a couple of kids, driving a Volvo, which was the runner up to Acura.
I can appreciate how, when you have kids you want to drive a car that will keep them as safe as possible, so I don't deny her the Volvo, nor the house in the suburbs- good schools and all that.
It's a reminder that there's a reason the idea of Yuppies or DINKS or whatever develops. And, it usually develops organically and is waiting for a label to be slapped on it.
2) After college, I spent a lot of time with my buddy, Jim. Jim was always up for happy hours, checking out a band, going on a road trip....whatever. He was ready.
He was/is friends with my brother-in-law, Michael. Michael was also one of those guys who was always up for anything fun. But, after he married my sister he really wanted to be home and spend time with her.
Jim would complain that Michael was no fun anymore. When Jim got involved and married, he would never disappear like Michael did.
And, you know how it turned out. Jim met Susan and was never heard from again. Well, maybe once a year, but not much more.
And, there's nothing wrong with that. There are some things going on that you can't appreciate until you're involved with it. Once you are, then your whole decision making framework changes.
That's my take on it anyway.
A couple examples I can think of include:
1) When I was in college, I was dating a woman, Laura. This was back in the mid-80's. She would go on and on about how much she disliked Yuppies, how they were beneath respect, and that she would NEVER be one.
I ran into her a couple years after college and she was driving an Acura, which was the official car of Yuppiedom at the time. A few years later and she was living in the suburbs, with a couple of kids, driving a Volvo, which was the runner up to Acura.
I can appreciate how, when you have kids you want to drive a car that will keep them as safe as possible, so I don't deny her the Volvo, nor the house in the suburbs- good schools and all that.
It's a reminder that there's a reason the idea of Yuppies or DINKS or whatever develops. And, it usually develops organically and is waiting for a label to be slapped on it.
2) After college, I spent a lot of time with my buddy, Jim. Jim was always up for happy hours, checking out a band, going on a road trip....whatever. He was ready.
He was/is friends with my brother-in-law, Michael. Michael was also one of those guys who was always up for anything fun. But, after he married my sister he really wanted to be home and spend time with her.
Jim would complain that Michael was no fun anymore. When Jim got involved and married, he would never disappear like Michael did.
And, you know how it turned out. Jim met Susan and was never heard from again. Well, maybe once a year, but not much more.
And, there's nothing wrong with that. There are some things going on that you can't appreciate until you're involved with it. Once you are, then your whole decision making framework changes.
That's my take on it anyway.
posted by Thomas at 7:57 AM
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